Tell us about YOU!
I live in Shaker Heights. I have one daughter, Olivia, and she is ten. I also have two stepkids: Ezra (28) and Amanda (25). Ezra has two kids, Dante (3) and Penelope (6 weeks), so I’m a grandma too. I’ll focus on being Olivia’s mom here. I am an employment lawyer by background and have an HR consulting business that I run from my house. When I need to see clients, I go to them. For the most part, my schedule is fairly flexible and I’m usually able to be home with Olivia before and after school. Not always, but a good percentage of the time. I love having my own business; I’ve worked hard to grow it and it’s a pretty steady workflow, though the ebbs and flows are inevitable. I love the flexibility my career provides me with. And because the flexibility is there much of the time, I don’t often feel guilty when work takes center stage for a while.
Do you ever have Mommy envy?
Don’t we all? I stand in awe of friends who have more than one child and work and stay in shape and are committed to personal growth and relationship building. I wonder how they do it all. I have one admittedly easy child; I am so blessed. Of course, she hasn’t hit her teens yet so I could absolutely be in for some rough times.
Give us a ‘day in the life’?
Average weekday: get up early and work until Olivia comes down for breakfast. Get her ready for school, pack lunch, etc. When she’s off to the bus, I either continue working, go for a run or hit a yoga class. I exercise most days. Then more work, taking care of house, dog, food shopping, etc., until Olivia gets home from school. Drive her to whatever activities she may have. Make a nice dinner. Sit with her while she eats and then have a date night with my amazing husband when she’s getting ready for bed or finishing up homework. After she goes to bed we often watch some TV, get in bed to read, and call it a day.
What’s your favorite part of the day?
Dinner; catching up with my family.
What’s the toughest part of the day?
Those hours b/w 3 and 6. My body always wants to nap!
What I wish was a staple in my day:
Meditation! I often intend to and then I let my “to do” list get in the way.
What seems to come “easy” to others that you struggle with (from your perspective)?
Being all-consumed with “mommydom.” I’ve always been the type who needs to put my oxygen mask on first – take care of myself so I can take care of my loved ones. I’m selfish this way.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Right now I have an amazing relationship with Olivia. We were on a walk recently and she stopped to tell me “Mom, I think we have a really special relationship.” I hope she feels that way in five years and beyond. I also hope my work situation stays pretty much the same – interesting work, a business I’ve built myself, flexibility, an income where I contribute to my family’s well-being and serve as a good role model for Olivia.
The truest thing about being a mom:
You can’t imagine how much you will love your child(ren) until you have them.
Funny mom story:
Olivia has always been a deep thinker. She ponders issues such as the meaning of life and whether there is a God and why. It is part of her nature. Once, when she was no more than five, we were driving in the car and she said, apropos of nothing, “Is this real or is someone else dreaming this?” My jaw dropped open.
Do you feel supported by other moms? What does this look like in your life?
I do feel supported by other moms that I choose to spend my time with. Having said that, I think there is some judgment out there about moms who make different choices (stay at home v. working). Maybe this is nothing more than “cliqueness” that exists to some degree in many social circles.
Do you think you’re a good mom?
I think I’m a really good mom. I’m not a mom who makes everything in my life all about my child. Many mom friends do that and to them I might seem not as good. But I actually think it’s better for my daughter to see me as a complete person, not just her mom. Of course, anything she needs, I’m there. But she sees me put time and energy into my marriage, my friendships, my health, my work. I think this is the right balance to model for her. (Having said that, I sometimes have self-doubt about this).
What has surprised you the most about being a mom?
I’m not actually a “kid” person by nature. As a teenager, my friends would stop and ooh and aah over cute babies. I never really understood that. Instead, I had that feeling when I saw a cute dog. But when it comes to my daughter, I am all in. Totally in love. I love to just stare at her when she sleeps, reads, does her homework. She’s got my heart, completely.
Sindy, thank you so, so, much for taking the time to write about being a mom. You are beautiful (stunning!) inside and out and every time I see you at the studio you light up the room with your smile. Your dedication to your yoga practice is inspiring and from where I’m standing, you truly are ‘superwoman’ with your family, career and commitment to health and well-being. Love and light to you!